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TheHomeSchoolMom Blog: You Started Homeschooling. Now What?When you’ve suddenly taken your kids out of school to homeschool, there is a long list of things to do, and it all seems like it needs to be done quickly so your kids won’t be behind.

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When you start homeschooling, one often overlooked aspect — especially if you hadn’t planned to homeschool — is the need for you and your child to come to terms with the school experience and the reasons you find yourself homeschooling.

To help you process the big change that comes with suddenly starting homeschooling, I recommend this: tell your story.

Telling your story of how you came to homeschooling can be powerful, similar to the power found in birth stories, ancestry/genealogical stories, and other narratives that describe personal journeys.

If you started homeschooling in the middle of the year, there is a good chance that it is in reaction to a school situation that was not working for them. You tried to make it work, maybe even for years. In some cases, you were a “I’ll-never-homeschool” parent or a public school teacher or an education advocate who has up to this moment thought, “homeschoolers are abandoning public schools.” You may have an understandable need to explain to everyone how you ended up homeschooling. Tell your story, in order to get perspective on this decision.

Here are some suggestions for telling your story.

Choose your audience carefully. You can’t get support from the non-supportive. Find or create a safe place to tell your story, either in writing or in person, but keep in mind that some family, friends, and policy makers will disagree with your decision. Blogs, Facebook groups for homeschoolers, in-real-life homeschool groups, homeschool conferences, homeschool park days, and similar settings provide safer places to describe your journey to homeschooling.

Realize you will hear exaggerations about homeschooling — both from those who say homeschooling will doom your children (not true, of course) and those who say it will guarantee homeschoolers’ future success (unfortunately, also not true). You will get responses to your story that vary widely depending on the other person’s experience with homeschooling and how it fits into their views of politics, society, religion, and economics.

Understand that homeschoolers have heard this before, and most longer-term homeschoolers have moved on. After a while, those whose children began their education in the classroom stop focusing on why school didn’t fit, and they spend more time on the freedom they have to help their children learn at home. Many (if not most) experienced homeschoolers will realize what stage you are in and lend a listening ear; however, understand that they are not at the same stage.

Listen to experienced homeschoolers’ current stories — these are among the paths you may go down in your future months and years of homeschooling. To keep communication mutual, listen. Understand that you, in your newness to homeschooling, are not the only one reflecting on being in this educational minority; longer-term homeschoolers are also processing what it means for them and their growing children. It may sound different to you — this search for the right approach to homeschooling or concerns about high school — but these parents also need to tell their stories, and you can learn from their seeking and processing.

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Jeanne Faulconer

A popular speaker at homeschooling conferences, business groups, and parents’ groups, Jeanne Potts Faulconer has homeschooled her three sons in North Carolina, Mississippi, and Virginia. She is a former college faculty member, former editor and book reviewer for Home Education Magazine, a long-time editor for VaHomeschoolers Voice, and a recent news correspondent for WCVE, an NPR-member station. Jeanne teaches writing and literature for her youngest son’s homeschool co-op, and she is a student of how learning works – at home, in the music room, in small groups, in the college classroom, on the soccer field, and in the car to and from practice. Holding her Master of Arts degree in Communication, Jeanne conducts portfolio evaluations for Virginia homeschoolers for evidence of progress. To read more of Jeanne’s writing, inquire about a homeschool evaluation, or ask her to speak to your group, see her blog, Engaged Homeschooling.

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  1. Paul Milas

    Making the final decision of homeschooling is a big decision in itself. Once you have made up your mind, it’s like half the battle won already. But half of the battle is still present which makes you scratch your head and leaves you clueless about where to start. I am sure your article will help those. 🙂

    • Cindy

      I’m seriously considering homeschool for my child. I’m worried about meeting all requirements for graduation. I feel safer enrolling him with a another homeschool teacher who knows what they are doing. Who should I contact for this.

      • Homeschooling is regulated by the state, so that is something that varies in terms of what is legally required. You should check with your state organization(s) to find out more. I have graduated 2 homeschoolers in Virginia and haven’t had any problem with transcripts or college admission requirements, so you should know that in many states homeschoolers don’t have to track things the same way that public schoolers do. You might find this article helpful if your child is in high school.

  2. Leticia Guerrero

    I need help finding more information and how to start homeschooling my son, he is already out of school,but I didn’t know that it was so hard to have him in homeschool,please give an advice of where to start

    • Please take a look at our Homeschooling 101 section, Leticia. It will help you to walk through the process from the beginning, especially the deschooling process which is important if you pulled him out of public school.

  3. Kimberly Bland

    Hi i want to do home schooling my child has special needs and is in middle school and will be in high school and has been in self contained classroom not benefiting at all i dont know where to start but im willing to do homeschooling not a lot of information on how to do homeschooling for special needs.I would greatly appreciate any help or information on where and how to get started .Thank you .

  4. Hi Kimberly – I’m not really qualified to give advice about special needs kids, but VaHomeschoolers has links to some good information. Keep in mind that the legal information on that page only applies to homeschoolers in Virginia, but the links under Resources will be helpful to you.

    You can find more information about the basics of starting homeschooling in our Homeschooling 101 section, and since your child has had a negative school experience you will want to pay special attention to the Deschooling information (both student and parental deschooling are important).

    Best wishes on your homeschool journey!

  5. Susan

    My son has panic attacks every time he tries to go to school. This has been going on about two months. Nothing that I know of has happened in school. Considering Homeschooling but I don’t know if that will help him or just make it worse

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